Why is the family losing responsibility and its obvious role/place in society?

Why is the family of a juvenile delinquent/problem child more to blame than mental illness excuses, I understand that some are not merely excuses, but for the most part they are, as well as a score of other reasons local authorities are using. I am only 24 years old but I believe that crime in america is directly linked to the degradation and ization of family values and morals. Whip your kids, lead by example, have a faith, give them chores, love your wife/husband-if not married/with a significant other than show love and compion to your other family and your friends and community. What is the media trying to replace the family with? The government? Is a good family the thing of the past? Or is someone going to redefine "good" for me?